How to cheer someone up: 5 ways to help a friend feel better

Clinically reviewed by Dr. Chris Mosunic, PhD, RD, CDCES, MBA
Learn why cheering people up can be supportive, and how being nice can make someone feel better. Plus, 9 tips to cheer someone up (including yourself).
What to know:
💙 Trying to cheer someone up can remind them they’re not alone, offer a meaningful boost to their mental health, and even strengthen your relationship.
💙 Cheering someone up starts with simply being there — listen, don’t rush to fix, and ask what they actually need.
💙 Little things help cheer someone up more than you think. A kind note, a shared walk, their favorite snack, or a check-in text can really lift someone’s day.
We all want to cheer up a friend when they’re feeling low, but sometimes it's tough to know exactly what to say or how to make someone happy when they are sad. Whether it’s a friend coping with a breakup, a colleague feeling overwhelmed at work, or a family member stuck in a low mood, we often feel a pull to step in and help them feel better. And while we might not have all the answers, our effort to show up with kindness and empathy can make a real difference and have a significant impact on their wellbeing.
Cheering someone up doesn’t always require a grand gesture. In fact, it’s often the small, thoughtful things that leave the biggest impact, like dropping off their favorite snack, sending a funny voice memo, or simply saying, “I’m here if you want to talk.”
Let’s explore how to cheer someone up in a way that’s thoughtful, authentic, and actually helpful. With a mix of empathy, fun ideas, and proven emotional support, you'll feel equipped to help your loved ones smile again and strengthen your bond in the process. Because sometimes, just knowing someone is in your corner is the best kind of comfort there is.
Why cheering people up can be supportive if they’re experiencing low mood or depression
When someone’s going through a tough time, taking time to show them we care can make a big difference. Cheering someone up can be a way of showing that we understand what they’re going through, or at least the impact it’s having on them. This kind of support can be especially helpful for people who are experiencing low mood or depression—it's a way of letting them know they’re not alone.
How to know if someone is experiencing low mood or depression
Low mood and depression can affect people in different ways. It’s not always easy to spot, but there are some signs that can give us a clue that someone might be struggling.
Frequent irritability: They might be quick to anger or feel frustrated more easily than usual, even over seemingly small things.
Loss of interest in activities they usually love: Withdrawing from favorite activities is a telltale sign of depression.
Sleep disturbances: People with depression can have difficulty falling or staying asleep and even struggle with insomnia.
Anxiety: Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future is a common symptom of depression or low mood and is a diagnosis in and of itself.
Changes in appetite: A depressed mood can disrupt your appetite. You can either feel compelled to eat more food, often comfort foods, or you might not be able to eat at all.
Lack of energy: People with depression or low mood can often feel tired more frequently than normal, making it challenging to keep plans, routine, and even show up and stay engaged at work.
Trouble concentrating or making decisions: A decreased ability to focus is a common symptom of low mood or depression.
The benefits of cheering someone up
Even a small act of kindness can give someone a break from their negative thoughts, which can be a boost for their mental health. But the benefits of cheering someone up aren’t just for the other person. Taking the time to support someone shows them that you truly care, which can ultimately strengthen your relationship with them. And these acts of kindness can inspire others to do the same, which may create a more supportive and understanding community around you.
If you’re trying to cheer someone up, here are 5 things to avoid
While it's important to know how to cheer someone up, it's equally crucial to understand what not to do. Sometimes, our best intentions can inadvertently make someone feel worse. By avoiding these common pitfalls, you can be a more effective and empathetic friend.
Recognize when to simply witness: Understand that there are times when trying to cheer someone up isn’t helpful. In these moments, the best support you can offer is to be present with them in their feelings, acknowledging their right to feel as they do without trying to change it.
Avoid interrupting them: When someone’s sharing their feelings, listen actively and attentively. Interrupting them can make them feel like their feelings are not important. Instead, give them your full attention and listen to understand, not just to respond.
Don’t invalidate their feelings: Acknowledge their emotions. It's easy to say things like "It's not that bad," or "You'll get over it," but this can make the person feel like their emotions aren’t valid. Instead, acknowledge their feelings with responses like, "I can see why you would feel that way."
Be cautious about oversharing positivity: Do your best to not be overly cheerful. While it’s good to be positive, being overly cheerful or sharing how well things are going for you can sometimes make the other person feel worse. Instead, focus on being empathetic and understanding their situation.
Don’t assume their needs: It's not always clear whether someone wants to be alone or wants company. Don’t assume what they need. It’s always better to ask. Asking them if they’d like company or would prefer time alone can show that you’re considerate of their needs.
5 ways to cheer someone up and make them feel better
Taking an action to help someone feel better can be a simple, yet profound, gesture. Start by asking the person how you can support them, and then use the suggestions below when appropriate.
1. Send a handwritten note
Personalize your care. In the digital age, a handwritten note can feel very special. Write a message that expresses your support and care. It could be a simple note that says, "Thinking of you," or sharing a happy memory you both cherish.
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2. Try new activities together
Doing something different can be a great distraction and can help create positive memories. Suggest an activity that's new to both of you, like a cooking class or a nature hike you’ve never done.
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3. Get together for some quality time
Showing up with a favorite meal or treat can be a great way to show you care. It can be as simple as picking up their favorite snack or cooking a meal for them. If they want to talk about what’s going on, practice active listening to make sure they feel heard and validated.
4. Plan a movie night with friends
Watching a movie can provide a welcome distraction. Ask your friend what movie they’ve been wanting to see lately or what their comfort film is, and make a date out of it, or have a group hang. If they’re up for going to the movies, that could be a great low-key outing. If not, movie nights at home are always healing, too.
5. Send a thoughtful or funny text to check in
A text message can be a quick way to show you’re thinking of them. It could be a funny meme, an inspiring quote, or just a message to check in. Think about what kind of message might make them smile or feel supported.
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How to cheer yourself up
Sometimes, we’re the ones who need a little lift in spirits. Knowing how to cheer yourself up can help you navigate tough times. It's okay to have days when you're not feeling your best, but taking steps to cheer yourself up can help you feel better in the moment and improve your overall wellbeing. By practicing these self-care strategies, you can help yourself bounce back and enjoy life’s brighter moments.
1. Make a home-cooked meal you love
Preparing a favorite meal can be a soothing and rewarding experience. The process of cooking can be calming, and there's a sense of achievement in creating something delicious.
2. Spend time with an animal
If you have a pet, spending time with them can be incredibly uplifting—animals can offer comfort and companionship without judgment. If you don’t have a pet, consider visiting a friend who has one, or spend some time volunteering at a local animal shelter.
3. Increase your heart rate through movement
Movement releases chemicals in our brains which are thought to act as natural mood lifters. It doesn’t have to be intense. Choose an activity that you enjoy. Even a walk around the block or a short yoga session can make a difference in your overall mood.
4. Express your feelings in a journal
Writing down what’s on your mind can be a great way to process your feelings, and can help you understand and manage your emotions better. Write whatever comes to mind, without worrying about structure or grammar.
How to cheer someone up FAQs
How do you cheer someone up over text?
Texting can be a powerful way to cheer someone up from afar. Ask, “How are you feeling today?” Then consider lightening the mood by sharing a relatable meme, an inside joke, or a quick voice note.
Offer your presence: “I’m here if you want to chat or need a distraction.”
Thoughtful texts remind them they’re not alone and help cheer people up during dark moments.
What do I say to someone to cheer them up?
Start with empathy: Try saying something like, “I see you’re having a tough day, and that matters to me.”
Open doors: Try, “I’m here if you want to talk or just hang out.”
Share a memory or something positive: “Remember when we…? That always makes me smile.” A little validation goes a long way, and sincerity in what to say to cheer someone up shows you truly care.
How do you cheer someone up in words?
Cheering someone up involves empathy and understanding. Aim to make them feel heard and supported.
Show you care and are there to support them: "I'm here for you, no matter what you need.”
Avoid minimizing their feelings with phrases like: "It could be worse.”
Validate their emotions: "It sounds like you're going through a tough time, and that must be really hard."
Encourage them: "You've overcome challenges before, and I believe you’ll overcome this."
What is the best way to cheer you up?
The best way to cheer yourself up varies from person to person, as everyone's needs and preferences are different. It can be helpful to reflect on what brings you joy. For some, it might be engaging in a hobby or activity they love, like reading, painting, or playing a sport. Others might find comfort in talking to a friend, watching a favorite movie, or spending time in nature. It's important to be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up, and understand that it's okay not to be okay sometimes. Experiment with different activities and see what works best for you in lifting your spirits.
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